2015年9月20日星期日

Maxim-Que sera sera.


"Que sera sera." --Italian Proverb

"Whatever will be, will be"--which at first sight might be misunderstood as a diminutive self-indulgence smart sheltering people briefly from present problems for its seemingly passive notation, essentially can be of great wise given due human's nature, that is, people are much more delicate than they supposed to be without composure. This kind of composure generally works as an expedient to help people disentangle from daily accumulating trivia confusions. Especially when people cannot help but ponder their ultimate cause, identity anxiety, and empathy doubts, etc., lacking of composure can cause mind states unqualified for solving out the logic-oriented problems, even exacerbate them. The way people function, Freud believed, follows parallel rules liken to a pressure venting system. By venting pressure promptly, people gain impetus from their incentive final goal, obtaining relief, thus renewing their response mechanism based on the experience. However, without the sedating wisdom of "Que sera sera", people's venting rhythms can be obscured beneath chronic nervousness, which is rooted in human's cognition as fundamental phobia for problems. For instance, if one guy is fear of a certain dog always in his way to workplace, in order to deal with it, he would either negatively suppress his fear, avoiding conflicts with the dog by making a detour, or positively digest such an unwise fear, letting it smoothly flow by persuading himself the dog may not be that harmful, or even it might be, it cannot cause stern damages. In both ways, this guy must make his decision to overcome the cognitive dissonance as quickly as possible; otherwise he could be late for work. And to bring such compromise into playing its necessary role, the guy needs to maintain his efficiency, to understand it is not like that he must control everything to achieve his goal, but that he should be aware of that even so, there is nothing guaranteed as absolute safety for him. "Of all the wonder that I yet have heard, it seems to me most strange that men should fear, seeing that death, a necessary end, will come when it will come. " In William Shakespeare's Julius Caesar, Caesar's motto significantly corresponds to the que-sera-sera attitude. Once realizing and admitting such reality, only with candid courage to allow oneself borne with not-omnipotent self positioning, one can deal with discouraging situations more calmly and live more effectively.

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